Sascha's Secret Love Letter #11
Quotes From The Heart
“Immature love says: ‘I love you because I need you.’ Mature love says: ‘I need you because I love you.’”
— Erich Fromm
Fromm flips the script: real love doesn’t cling to fill a void; it chooses, then supports. Need follows love, not the other way around. If anxiety drives your reach, pause and resource yourself first, then relate from steadiness. Two rooted people create the safest room for desire and growth.
Try this: Write one sentence that starts, “I choose you when I…” and practice that action once this week.
This Week In Love
Supportive relationships linked to heart health
New research suggests that strong, supportive relationships can improve outcomes for people with cardiovascular disease. Translation for daily life: warmth and teamwork are not soft extras, they are part of your health plan. Micro-practice: three daily deposits of care, such as a check-in text, a sincere acknowledgment, or ten minutes of device-free presence. Early study, sample specific, but the direction aligns with broader evidence.
Read the full article here
Question for you: What is one small daily deposit of care you can start today that your heart will feel?
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Beyond Type: Your Real Magnetism
If we were side by side at the mirror, I’d tell you this: men don’t fall for templates, they fall for a feeling. Preferences exist, sure, but presence is the multiplier. When I coach women to stop performing and start inhabiting their bodies, everything changes. Perfection doesn’t create pull. Presence does. A woman grounded in her life, lit by her joy, and steady in her boundaries becomes unforgettable, whether or not she matches a trend. You do not need to fit a type to be the one.
Try this now: stand, breathe, and name out loud the feeling you want him to have in your presence. Choose one tiny behavior that broadcasts it today. Calm could be slower speech. Playful could be a real laugh. Sovereign could be a clear yes or no.
Curious Questions
This week's curiosity poll...
What's your go-to 5-minute repair move after tension?
A) Name my part + sorry 🙋♀️
B) 20-second hug 🫂
C) Quick walk together 🚶♀️
D) Voice note later 🎙️
Share your response at support@haert2heart.com - all responses remain anonymous :)
Your Secret Invitation
The other afternoon, I pulled a weathered copy of Broken Open by Elizabeth Lesser while the sky over Bali went that unforgettable silver before rain. As the first drops softened the terrace, her pages reminded me of something I tell my clients every week: breakdowns are thresholds. Something dissolves so something truer can emerge. This book is about that passage. Lesser weaves stories of loss, illness, divorce, and reinvention, and offers gentle practices for staying present while the old self loosens its grip. My take as a coach is simple. You do not need to fix the breaking. You need to let the breaking do its sacred work, then choose the next honest step. Read slowly. Let a chapter meet you where you are.
Reflection: What part of you is asking to be let go with dignity?
You can watch an interview on YouTube featuring Broken Open author Elizabeth Lesser in conversation with Oprah.
Until next week 😉
