3 Clear Signs He Still Loves His Ex (And What You Should Do About It)
We’re diving into 3 undeniable signs he still loves his ex—and what that means for your relationship.
Introduction: Is His Ex Still in the Picture?
Picture this: You’re out on a cozy date night. The mood is perfect, the conversation is flowing, and then—bam—her name drops. Maybe it’s casual, like, “Oh, she used to love this restaurant,” or maybe it’s more subtle, like a story that oddly seems to feature his ex way too often. You brush it off with a smile, but inside you’re thinking, Why is she still part of this conversation?
Sound familiar? The truth is, past relationships leave emotional footprints, and sometimes those feelings don’t disappear as quickly as we’d like. If you’re starting to feel like his ex is the invisible third wheel in your relationship, it’s not just your imagination.
Today, we’re diving into 3 undeniable signs he still loves his ex—and what that means for your relationship. Let’s break it down.
1. He Talks About Her Too Much—or Not at All
Why It’s a Red Flag:
How often (or how little) he talks about his ex can reveal a lot about where his heart truly is. Both extremes—constantly bringing her up or completely avoiding the topic—are concerning.
What to Watch For:
He casually brings her up in conversations, sharing inside jokes or stories that involve her.
He talks about how terrible or amazing their relationship was.
He completely avoids mentioning her, even when it makes sense to.
What It Means:
If he talks about her all the time, it’s a sign he hasn’t emotionally detached. Whether he’s praising her or blaming her, she’s still living rent-free in his head. On the flip side, never mentioning her could mean he’s suppressing unresolved feelings rather than dealing with them.
What to Do:
Pay attention to how often her name comes up. If it’s excessive (or suspiciously absent), it’s time to ask him directly about his feelings. Open communication can help you understand whether he’s truly ready for a new relationship—or still holding on to the past.
2. He Maintains Close Contact with Her
Why It’s a Red Flag:
Staying friendly with an ex isn’t always a bad thing. But there’s a line between being civil and staying emotionally connected.
What to Watch For:
He frequently texts or calls her for non-urgent reasons.
He keeps up with her life on social media (likes, comments, or watching every story).
They still hang out one-on-one or have “traditions” they haven’t let go of.
What It Means:
Regular communication with an ex can mean he hasn’t fully moved on. Maybe he’s keeping her as a safety net, or he’s not emotionally ready to commit to you. Either way, it’s unfair to your relationship.
What to Do:
Ask yourself: Does their relationship feel appropriate or intrusive? If it crosses boundaries, have an honest conversation about how it makes you feel. A man who’s truly invested in you will understand and prioritize your comfort.
3. He Compares You to Her
Why It’s a Red Flag:
Comparisons—whether positive or negative—are a glaring sign that he’s still emotionally tied to his ex.
What to Watch For:
He says things like, “She used to love this song,” or “You’re way more laid-back than she was.”
He subtly or openly criticizes things you do based on what his ex used to do.
He idealizes his past relationship or minimizes your differences.
What It Means:
Comparing you to his ex—good or bad—means he’s stuck in the past. It suggests he’s using his old relationship as a yardstick for his new one, which isn’t fair to you.
What to Do:
Call it out. Let him know that comparisons are hurtful and create unnecessary pressure. A healthy relationship should be built on what’s happening between the two of you, not on past relationships.
Conclusion: Trust Your Gut and Set Boundaries
There you have it—the 3 signs he still loves his ex. If you’re spotting these red flags, it’s time for some honest reflection.
Ask yourself:
Is he emotionally available for me?
Am I feeling secure and valued in this relationship?
If the answer is no, it might be time for a serious conversation about where you both stand. You deserve a partner who is fully present and committed—not someone who’s emotionally stuck in the past.
Remember: You’re not here to compete with anyone’s ex. You deserve to be with someone who’s all in—mind, body, and heart.
Trust your instincts. Protect your peace. And never settle for less than you deserve.
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